The Rant: Day 48 of Thirty Day Proactive Test

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Monday, May 16, 2016

Day 48 of Thirty Day Proactive Test

6:56 AM

We are in the middle of May.

It is Monday morning.

This is Day forty-eight of The Thirty Day Proactive Test. I am Charles Lamson and this is my tale.

As mentioned in an earlier blog, I just finished reading 7 Habits. I made a very proactive choice for my next book to read. It is an old business/management text book. It is called Organizational Behavior. It is all about the study of behavior within organizations for business and manager types. I am actually enjoying it. I find it interesting.

I still have a lot of my old college textbooks. I always kept them because they were so expensive and they were interesting too and I never really read any of them all the way through because in class I would just glean whatever information I needed from the books then leave them mostly unread.

It just seemed like such a waste. So I decided to just keep them and one day when the time is right read them. So that is what I am doing. And I am enjoying these non-fiction books. It is fun reading about non-fictional real life stuff. I have always been an avid reader, but mostly science fiction and detective novels.

Continuing with my in-depth analysis of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey, Today I am moving on from Habit 3 (put first things first) to Habit 4 (think Win/Win).

HABIT 4 OF THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

THINK WIN-WIN

Think Win-Win is not about being nice. It is not a quick-fix technique. It is a code for human interaction and collaboration that is character-based.

Comparison and competition is how most of us learn to base our self-worth. Too often, people only think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing, because people are petty jealous and sadistic assholes.

Win-Win focuses more on cooperation as opposed to competition. It is a frame of mind that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions.

There are three vital character traits that win-win people possess:

Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments
Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others
Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone

Application Suggestions

1. Think about an upcoming interaction wherein you will be attempting to reach an agreement or negotiate a solution.. Commit to maintain a balance between courage or consideration.

2. Make a list of obstacles that keep you from applying the Win/Win paradigm more often. Determine what could be done within your Circle of Influence to eliminate some of those obstacles.

Well one obvious obstacle I have that keeps me from applying the Win/Win paradigm more often is that I do not really have a clear idea what the Win/Win paradigm is all about. I guess I did not retain much of what I read in that chapter, One thing I can do that is in my Circle of Influence is, for the next couple days, I plan to go back and focus on that chapter 4, reporting my findings in this blog, doing an analysis of Habit 4 and Chapter 4 of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

6 Paradigms of Human Interaction

1. Win/Win
2. Win/Lose
3. Lose/Win
4. Lose/Lose
5. Win
6. Win//Win or No Deal

Win/Win: A frame of mind and heart that always seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions.

Win/Lose: One alterrntive to Win/Win is Win/Lose, the paradigm that says, "If I win, you lose."

Lose/Win: Some people are programmed the other way
"I lose. You win."
"Go ahead. Have your way with me."
"Step on me again. Everyone does."
"I am a loser. I have always been a loser."
Lose/Win is worse than Win/Lose because it has no standards, no demands, no expectations, no vision.

Lose/Lose: When two Win/Lose people get together, two determined, stubborn, ego-invested individuals, the result will be Lose/Lose. Both will lose. Both will become vindictive and want to exact revenge and/or justice.

Win: Another common alternative is simply to think Win. People with the Win mentality do not necessarily want someone else to lose. That is irrelevant. What matters is that they get what they want.

Win/Win or No Deal: No Deal basically means that if we cannot find a solution that is agreeable to both, we agree to disagree, agreeably.

Five Dimensions of Win/Win

Win/Win is the habit of interpersonal leadership. Effective interpersonal leadership requires the vision, the proactive initiative and the security, guidance, wisdom and power that comes from principle-centered personal leadership.

1. Character

Character is the foundation of Win/Win. Everything else builds on that foundation.

2. Relationships

From the foundation of character, we build and maintain Win/Win relationships.

3. Agreements

From relationships flow the agreements that give definition and direction to Win/Win.

4. Win/Win Management Training.

5. Win/Win Performance Agreements (to be continued)...

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The kingdom of God is among you

Luke 17:20-25 Asked by the Pharisees when the kingdom of God was to come, Jesus gave them this answer, ‘The coming of the kingdom of God does not admit of observation and there will be no one to say, “Look here! Look there!” For, you must know, the kingdom of God is among you.’ He said to the disciples, ‘A time will come when you will long to see one of the days of the Son of Man and will not see it. They will say to you, “Look there!” or, “Look here!” Make no move; do not set off in pursuit; for as the lightning flashing from one part of heaven lights up the other, so will be the Son of Man when his day comes. But first he must suffer grievously and be rejected by this generation.’

Live Adoration from Tyburn Convent

Adoration, also known as Eucharistic Adoration, is a Catholic prayer in front of the Blessed Sacrament. It is a sign of devotion and worship to Jesus Christ, who is believed to be present in the consecrated host. During adoration, Catholics pray to Jesus Christ before the Eucharist at their local parish. The Eucharist is typically kept in a tabernacle at the parish church, and may be presented in front of a closed tabernacle or in front of the exposed host in a monstrance. A monstrance is a vessel used in Roman Catholic, Anglican, High Church Lutheran, and Old Catholic churches. It is a stand made of precious metal that holds the Blessed Sacrament during adoration. The word "monstrance" comes from Latin and means "to show".

Love

1 Corinthians 13:4-7: Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous; love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offence, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. 1 Corinthians 13:8-9,13: Love does not come to an end. But if there are gifts of prophecy, the time will come when they must fail; or the gift of languages, it will not continue for ever; and knowledge – for this, too, the time will come when it must fail. For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophesying is imperfect. In short, there are three things that last: faith, hope and love; and the greatest of these is love. Colossians 3:14-15: Over all these clothes, to keep them together and complete them, put on love. And may the peace of Christ reign in your hearts, because it is for this that you were called together as parts of one body. Always be thankful.

It is not peace I have come to bring, but a sword

Jesus instructed the Twelve as follows: ‘Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth: it is not peace I have come to bring, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. A man’s enemies will be those of his own household. ‘Anyone who prefers father or mother to me is not worthy of me. Anyone who prefers son or daughter to me is not worthy of me. Anyone who does not take his cross and follow in my footsteps is not worthy of me. Anyone who finds his life will lose it; anyone who loses his life for my sake will find it. ‘Anyone who welcomes you welcomes me; and those who welcome me welcome the one who sent me. ‘Anyone who welcomes a prophet will have a prophet’s reward; and anyone who welcomes a holy man will have a holy man’s reward. ‘If anyone gives so much as a cup of cold water to one of these little ones because he is a disciple, then I tell you solemnly, he will most certainly not lose his reward.’ When Jesus had finished instructing his twelve disciples he moved on from there to teach and preach in their towns.

The beheading of John the Baptist

Matthew 14:1-12 Herod the tetrarch heard about the reputation of Jesus, and said to his court, ‘This is John the Baptist himself; he has risen from the dead, and that is why miraculous powers are at work in him.’ Now it was Herod who had arrested John, chained him up and put him in prison because of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife. For John had told him, ‘It is against the Law for you to have her.’ He had wanted to kill him but was afraid of the people, who regarded John as a prophet. Then, during the celebrations for Herod’s birthday, the daughter of Herodias danced before the company, and so delighted Herod that he promised on oath to give her anything she asked. Prompted by her mother she said, ‘Give me John the Baptist’s head, here, on a dish.’ The king was distressed but, thinking of the oaths he had sworn and of his guests, he ordered it to be given her, and sent and had John beheaded in the prison. The head was brought in on a dish and given to the girl, who took it to her mother. John’s disciples came and took the body and buried it; then they went off to tell Jesus.

Psalms 9:16

The LORD is known by the judgment which he executeth: the wicked is snared in the work of his own hands. Higgaion. Selah - Question: What does Higgaion and Selah mean? Answer: Both Higgaion and Selah are used numerous times in the Old Testament. They occur together in Psalm 9:16. The meanings of these words are uncertain. We observe Higgaion in such passages as Psalm 9:16; 19:14; 42:3; Lamentations 3:63. In Arabic, the root gives a deep vibrating sound, like the murmering sound of a harp (Psa. 92:3). The International Standard Bible Encyclopedia states that it may be derived from the Greek versions of Psalm 9:16 and takes it to mean an instrumental interlude. It may also mean a soliloquy or meditation such as concerning the judgment of God (Psa. 9:16), the words and work of God (Psa. 19:14), and the loving kindness and faithfulness of God (Psa. 92:2-3). In the Septuagint, Selah is translated as daplasma (meaning a division). It occurs in Habakkuk 3:3, 9, 13 and 71 times in the Psalms. It is used in 39 of our 150 psalms. Of those 39 psalms, 31 they are ones handed over to "the chief Musician." So, pause and meditation may be the predominate idea. In addition, it may mean to lift up (Hebrew, salal) or, in some definitions, a repetition, end of a strophe, or a recurring symphony. In his sermon named "HIGGAION!" about Psalm 9:16, Archibald G. Brown, on August 17, 1873, at the East London Tabernacle said this: "When the psalmist wrote this verse, and reached the words 'The wicked shall be snared in the work of his own hands', he seemed to be overpowered at the terror of the thought, and so put a full stop and wrote in the word 'Higgaion!' As much as to say, 'O my soul, meditate on the tremendous truth my hand has penned, and let all who read the same meditate.' And then after 'Higgaion' he puts 'Selah'. He would have there to be a solemn pause. Oh, I would that there could be just one moment's solemn pause in our meeting tonight. Would that there could be a Selah, a Higgaion! Friends, shall there be? I put it to you. 'The Lord is known by the judgment which he executes; and the wicked shall be snared in the work of his own hands!" Now let us just for a moment meditate on that. Let there be a solemn Higgaion, and let every heart ask itself the question, 'How do I stand in reference to this tremendous truth?' *Answer by Dr. Joseph R. Nally, Jr. (https://thirdmill.org/answers/answer.asp/file/47892)*

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